I’m going to tell Daddy that you are thinking about having sex. LOL I’m just joking relax but I think it’s cool that you are asking me for advice about this. I think you are already doing what is right, I would say to you now just don’t give up the fight. A cousin of mines once told me if the relationship is right today, it will be right tomorrow. So sex is not security, if your man wants to go you can’t hold him down with a baby. There are so many examples lately, too many brothers are shady. I f you were my sister I might want you to die a virgin too. I wouldn’t want you with a man who only wants sex from you. What is his baby momma’s story? Don’t be like the other young lady. Now I don’t know your boy friend, but the trend tends to be the same. A history, if unaddressed can only repeat its name.

 

Think about the real reason you are in this relationship, is it how he makes you feel? Your friends gave up their virginity for societal appeal, because they were not able to tell the difference from what was false to what is real. I know society tells you at this age that this is who you have to be. Young lady with boy friend waiting to pop the cherry, but you have to start to think about who you want to be. You see those other girls with one and two children already, and you say to your self I don’t want that to be me. Your quest for love shouldn’t leave you bare foot with baby, your girl friends thought that maybe. Bed rocking with ex-girl friend plus child mother knocking; is this the life you want to live? Some women bend over willingly because they think that’s all the love men have to give. Meanwhile that’s all the love they can get, because from the first look their underwear is already fallen off from panty sweat. Three to four children later because they mistake love for the alligator, you got to love your self more then an alligator ride. Otherwise you will end up with a man who only that he can provide.

 

The question for you now is will you rewrite your future history? In order for you to rise out of the cycle in which so many around you live. You will have to let some old notions go to see a new vision through which your life can grow. Now once you are done with that those who don’t fit in the new picture won’t be coming back. They’ll say “she there pun some vibes” but that’s only means they don’t understand what you now realize. Dear sister it looks like your future is bright, but it doesn’t matter how bright it is if you don’t see the light. Don’t give up on doing what’s right, and if it means you must walk alone then tie your shoe laces tight. The journey is to those who stay faithful to the vision. Not to those who allow wet dreams to be the deciding factor in their decisions.